I just read the most amazing short novel, Orbital, by Samantha Harvey, a book that won this year’s top British literary award, The Booker Prize. It’s about six people on the international space station, and a day in their lives, but it’s really about time, meaning, purpose, the earth, humanity, our politics, the cosmos, and so much more. It’s like a prose poem of ecstatic musings. Harvey takes you inside the minds and hearts and bodies of the 4 astronauts and 2 cosmonauts as they circle the earth at 17,500 miles an hour, experiencing 16 sunrises and sunsets in one 24 hour period. I’ll quote a few passages and resist the temptation to quote the entire book. Do yourself a HUGE favor and get it and read it. 207 small pages with good print size. Easy to read. Transporting. Ethereal. And practical. Get it here: https://www.amazon.com/Orbital-Samantha-Harvey/dp/0802161545/?tag=tomvmorriscom-20&ref_=pe_584750_33951330
Referring to the Japanese astronaut who just got word her mother has died:
Chie’s only mother now is that rolling, glowing ball that throws itself involuntarily around the sun once a year. Chie has been made an orphan, her father dead a decade. That ball is the only thing she can point to now that has given her life. There’s no life without it. Without that planet there’s no life. Obvious. (12)
Sometimes they look at the earth and could be tempted to roll back all they know to be true, and to believe instead that it sits, this planet, at the centre of everything. It seems so spectacular, so dignified and regal. They could still be led to believe that God himself had dropped it there, at the very centre of the waltzing universe, and they could forget all those truths men and women had uncovered (via a jerking and stuttering path of discovery followed by denial followed by discovery followed by cover-up) that the earth is a piddling speck at the centre of nothing. They could think: no negligible thing could shine so bright, no far-hurled nothing satellite could bother itself with these shows of beauty, no paltry rock could arrange such intricacy of fungus and minds. (40)
This thing that habours we humans who polish the ever-larger lenses of our telescopes that tell us how ever-smaller we are. And we stand there gaping. And in time we come to see that not only are we on the sidelines of the universe but that it’s a universe of sidelines, that there is no centre, just a giddy mass of waltzing things, and that perhaps the entirety of our understanding consists of an elaborate and ever-evolving knowledge of our own extraneousness, a bashing away of mankind’s ego by the instruments of scientific inquiry until it is, that ego, a shattered edifice that lets light through. (41)
Pietro, the Italian, looking through the window at the earth below:
Radiance itself. What would it be to lose this? (52)
Nell wants to ask Shaun how it is he can be an astronaut and believe in God, a Creationist God, but she knows what his answer would be. He’d ask how it is that she can an astronaut and not believe in God. They’d draw a blank. She’d point out of the port and starboard windows, where the darkness is endless and ferocious. Where solar systems and galaxies are violently scattered. Where the field of view is so deep and multidimensional that the warp of space-time is something you can almost see. Look, she’d say, What made that but some heedless hurling beautiful force?
And Shaun would point out of the port and starboard windows where the darkness is endless and ferocious, at exactly the same violently scattered solar systems and galaxies and at the same deep and multidimensional field of view warped with space-time and he would say: what made that but some heedful hurling beautiful force?”
Is that all the difference there is between their views, then - a bit of heed? Is Shaun’s universe just the same as hers but made with care, to a design? Hers an occurrence of nature and his an artwork? [It gets better but I’ll stop here] (66-67)
When an astronaut remembers his daughter asking whether progress is a good or bad thing and he said it’s beautiful, and then on the orbits of earth he reconsiders:
Because who can look at man’s neurotic assault on the planet and find it beautiful? Man’s hubris. A hubris so almighty it’s matched only by his stupidity. (79)
At night. City lights in the blackness of space:
The night’s electric excess takes their breath away. The spread of life. The way the planet proclaims to the abyss: there is something and someone here. (106)
There is a passage on the beauty of earth and the awfulness of human conduct that rises to the level of a symphony of insight and poetry that goes from pages 108-110 and would take too long to quote. But it’s one of the finest passages of the book, and maybe of any book. The ugliness of our politics, marring the surface of a gorgeous planet, described in amazing terms.
Pages 169-173 give the best cosmic history I’ve ever seen, and in terms that are unforgettable. Don’t believe me, go read them. As if since the big bang a year has passed. What happened in each month or minute. But better than ever has been said.
Pietro sleeps and dreams:
Our lives here are inexpressibly trivial and momentous at once, it seems he’s about to wake up and say. Both repetitive and unprecedented. We matter greatly and not at all. To reach some pinnacle of human achievement only to discover that your achievements are next to nothing and that to understand this is the greatest achievement of any life, which itself is nothing, and also much more than everything. (184)
And there is much more.
https://www.amazon.com/Orbital-Samantha-Harvey/dp/0802161545/?tag=tomvmorriscom-20&ref_=pe_584750_33951330
After a rock and roll philosophy talk/performance for the amazing students of NC State University this week on True Success: The Art of Achievement in Times of Change, I woke up to find my hair still excited! Like Socrates, I look forward to the great HairAfter. No products or processes were used in the making of this photograph. I put on my glasses, got up, looking in the mirror and had to share the vision that greeted me.
I get excited about great ideas. I hope you do too. One hour at NC State turned into nearly three, and after my sixty minute spoken word celebration of philosophical wisdom around life success, I loved hearing people’s questions for the next two hours, first in the plenary session through the means of microphones, and then in the front of the room, in the aisle, and outside the auditorium. Seven universal conditions for success, The 7 Cs of Success: Conception, Confidence, Concentration, Consistency, Commitment, Character and a Capacity to Enjoy the Process along the way. Digging deep, reconciling paradoxes, and seeing new sights. It was indeed for me an uplifting and hair-raising experience. I hope you and I have it together some time!
Wisdom Weekend Retreats for early 2025. About 10 years ago, I did a number of retreats on Wrightsville Beach here near my home bringing to the beach great people who had read one or more of my books or heard me speak to a corporate group or big convention and wanted a weekend rather than just an hour or two to ponder the insights of the ages on things that matter to us all. The retreats we held were really super experiences for everyone involved. Those who came from around the country got along great, loved meeting fellow philosophers, and enlightened each another with amazing perspectives on the life wisdom we all need in our time.
It's been a while but I’m feeling the urge to start up those retreats again. If you love philosophy, or the path of practical wisdom, hearing new perspectives on life, and enjoy a great beach, I can now officially announce some retreat dates that will restart this experience in 2025, on the weekends of:
January 31-February 2,
March 14-16, and
April 4-6.
The first two weekends are scheduled to be new versions of “The Extraordinary Life Retreat,” the range of topics I did a decade ago focused on true success, real happiness, and the challenge of change in our lives, among other issues of personal wisdom and the role of virtue in our endeavors. The April Retreat will be EITHER a second personal topic retreat, likely on issues of courage, faith, hope, and love as they appear in a new book I’m writing called “The Gift of Uncertainty,” or it will be a focused leadership and life retreat based in some classics like Gilgamesh, Beowulf, and Frankenstein, and one or two others, soon to be chosen.
Each year, we hope to have a cycle of retreats for those wanting to come back, as happened ten years ago when we last hosted these amazing experiences. At the peak of his popularity Stephen Covey (The Seven Habits guy) and I co-hosted a weekend retreat at Notre Dame for 50 CEOs and their spouses. He insisted I start doing retreats of my own at the beach in North Carolina. And he was right. They’re needed and they’re immensely enriching for all of us. I hope you can come!
For more information, email me any interest ASAP, as there will typically be only 15-20 spaces in each retreat, give or take, and we’re setting the retreat fee well below the norm this year. Our great resort hotel, recently renovated to have the aura of a high end beach house, Lumina on Wrightsville Beach, is offering crazy low water view room prices for all retreat participants, and is a place you’ll love. We’re working to see if a couple of partial fellowships can be offered this year, so if that might be desired, let me know. Retreat fees will be $975 per person, rooms at the resort will be $129-149 a night, depending on sound view or ocean view (2 nights usually needed for those coming from afar) and food is reasonably priced and good. When the group is complete for each weekend, I’ll send you a link for hotel discounts and our registration, along with other details.
Retreats will start on the respective Friday evening at 6 or 6:30, will go to 8 or 9PM and will continue in sessions on Saturday 9AM to 12 Noon, and 2 PM to 5 PM, then reconvene for more informal conversations Saturday evening. And We’ll conclude with a session Sunday morning 9 AM to Noon or a bit earlier, then we all exchange contact information with our new favorite people, hug, and depart.
Wilmington International Airport (ILM) is about 10 miles from the hotel and there should be hotel van service available. We have direct flights many times a day with American, Delta, and United, among other domestic airlines. And of course, Myrtle Beach and RDU have airports within a 2-hour drive.
Come meet amazing people, enjoy deep dives into wisdom, and expand your community across space and time in a way that will support your growth for years to come. I’ll lead most sessions, joined by friends like my near neighbor Dr. Gary Bradt (global spokesman years ago for the famous book by his friend Spencer Johnson, Who Moved my Cheese?), and other luminaries on occasion like the great executive coach and all-round good guy, Jay Forte (The Greatness Zone), and one of my favorite fellow philosophers in the world, the Furman professor and still able rock drummer Aaron Simmons (Camping with Kierkegaard). Shoot me an email through the contact page on my website, listed above, or just reply at the world’s oldest email address, TomVMorris@aol.com with subject RETREATS. I look forward to philosophizing together if your schedule allows!
And if I can’t entice you down here now, keep this in mind for the future! In any case, whether here or on social media (links on my “about” page), let’s keep philosophizing! All Best! Tom
Philosophers: Good, bad, and fake. Beware the false philosophers who trumpet their wisdom. And seek the company of the good.
Philosophy - philo/sophia is etymologically the love of wisdom. With that definition, we’re all to be philosophers, though few seem to be on the path. Among those who are, and among the adepts, there are to be found good practitioners of philosophy, good teachers of philosophy, and good original philosophers. All are good philosophers but in different ways, though some combine all three modes, and yet perhaps with different strengths.
A good practicing philosopher uses wisdom well in her day to day life. She loves wisdom enough that it forms her emotions, attitudes, and actions, what she notices, what she cares about, and what she does. A good teacher of philosophy has to be well informed, imaginative, clear, and passionate about the wisdom uncovered historically and in his or her own life. A good original philosopher ideally needs some measure of all these things, but also needs a very logical mind to an almost extreme degree, an attention to detail beyond even the exceptional, and a strong intuition for creative thought. There are always many people in our society now who present themselves in more than one of these ways, but we should examine their real credentials of heart and mind in so far as possible before we take them seriously as good guides and appropriate their ideas.
And by the way, a shout out to the faculty, staff, officers and cadets of The Air Force Academy where I had a great experience this week, bringing philosophy to the great students and future leaders. Philosophy got a long, loud standing ovation from the hundreds present and it was a great thing to see. We have great young people here and around the world who can help bring wisdom to life in new ways. Let’s cheer them on. I’ll close with a picture of the stage and podium where I philosophized, but this is Robert Gates, former Secretary of Defense at the same podium a while ago.
A very creative friend was talking to me yesterday about his reticence to promote his work to the world. He said something like "It just doesn't seem right." He's a writer and poet and produces amazing books that people need to experience. I told him I had an instant image of a potter come to mind, as in the picture here, but she's surrounded out of frame by thousands and thousands of beautiful finished pots. Someone walks in and says "What's all this???" She replies, "I'm a potter, not a marketer." Well, my friends, that's the life of too many creative people, doing their art and afraid that promoting it to the world would be unseemly, a form of tooting your own horn. But I pointed out a distinction to my very smart friend. The egotist says "Look at ME!" The enthusiast says "Look at THIS." It’s a small distinction but very important. You can be enthusiastic about your work, immensely excited over it, without a hint of ego crowding in and crowing. As long as you're promoting the product, the good, the service, and not featuring your ego in blazing flashing lights, you're good. And the world will be better off in knowing about your work. So do great stuff. Then tell us all about it!
And by the way, this is the sort of stuff we will be reflecting on at our upcoming Wisdom Weekend Retreats. If you're interested in learning about them, shoot me a line. It's not of course about me, but about an amazing time together exploring world wisdom about success, happiness, change, and other vital life issues.
I just saw this poster picture online and thought “Other than the dangling preposition at the end, this is great,” but of course in modern times we dangle all sorts of things. So I present it for your contemplation.
You've heard the old story. Three guys at a construction site independently asked what they're doing. One guy says, "Hauling stones, can't you see?" The second answers, "Putting up a wall." The third says "Building a cathedral." That's the attitude we want for ourselves and our partners. Many people attribute to the author of The little Prince the sensibility that we shouldn't just teach others to build boats but to long for the vast adventure of the sea. The quote that circulates on social media is this:
If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men and women to gather wood, divide the work, and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.
And it's apparently just made up but summarizes a lesson in St. Exupery's Citadelle, a part of which says in English translation:
Building a boat isn’t about weaving canvas, forging nails, or reading the sky. It’s about giving a shared taste for the sea, by the light of which you will see nothing contradictory but rather a community of love.
That's our aspiration in anything we do: A shared taste and vision of something great and noble sought in a community of love.
Friends! I haven’t blogged for a while here because I’ve been finishing 3 new books and that’s taken all my time. I do post really short things on social media, but have come back to this blog today to invite you to a retreat coming up soon. I'm excited that our favorite local beach hotel near my home has green lighted a first retreat weekend for us in a new cycle of retreats. It’s scheduled to be at the great Holiday Inn Lumina Resort on Wrightsville Beach, outside Wilmington, NC from Friday December 13 (Dinner)-Sunday December 15 at noon. Things will start with a Friday dinner session and go through the weekend, assuming we can get a quorum of people for this first, soon upcoming date in a busy time of year. A reasonable retreat fee helps pay for the dinner and snacks and our meeting rooms, whose use reduces the cost of overnight rooms, which are already great with off season prices, and will help promote the mission of Wisdom/Work, the book imprint and overall enterprise I'm engaged in to bring more practical wisdom to the culture. The topics of this first retreat will be true success, happiness, fulfillment, and change in our lives. More retreats on this cluster of topics and others will be scheduled for early 2025. Let me know at TomVMorris@aol.com if you'd like to come to this first retreat or be put on a list for future retreats! And I’ll send you more info. I'd love to host you and dig deep into such vital aspects of a deep life philosophy. When I last had time to do retreats, ten years ago, they were amazing, and people often bonded incredibly. Let me know if you're interested!
Friends! I have to tell you, I'm having a great great time with my 2024 international book club, now underway! Smart people of many ages and professions from various spots across the globe reading my novels with me and diving deep into the philosophy in new ways. Thanks to all who are participating! You are my teachers. Maybe we'll do it again.
For those of you who may not know of these books, they came to me as a mental movie starting in February of 2011, a story set in Egypt in 1934 and 1935 that soon became a rollicking adventure of mystery, philosophy, romance, intrigue, and deep perspectives on life in the world. It was the most unexpected intellectual adventure of my life. Last year, I did a book club on these novels, reading one a month and meeting by Zoom at the end of each month. I was amazed at how much I learned from readers who were deep diving into the books and recommending them to friends. I decided to repeat the process and it’s been another incredible experience this time around as well, full of new insights, novel questions, and deep thinking together. If you get to see these books, I’d love to hear what you think. They’re fiction but “based on a true story” - the human adventure in this world!
Wonder and Its Questions
Both Plato and Aristotle believed that philosophy begins in wonder. That mindset, attitude, and activity represented by the Greek “philo-sophia,” meaning “the love of wisdom,” has no other origin. Wonder is the source.
But that explanation can use some clarification, because we typically speak of wonder in two different senses. First, there is wonder as awe. Your first look at the Grand Canyon up close, or a first experience of the Northern Lights undulating in the dark night sky, may evoke a cosmic sense of wonder as an overwhelming awe. You are entranced, and perhaps even speechless. You may feel very small in the immensity of things. But in each case, you might subsequently wonder what caused such a phenomenon, and that’s wonder as asking. it’s an interrogatory mode, a quest for discovery and illumination. So there is wonder as an awe and as an ask. I believe the early philosophers had both senses in mind. A deeper experience of life, and perhaps of your work, can begin only through a sense of wonder as a real awe and as a deep asking.
Both Plato and Aristotle had learned from Socrates, and he was the individual who launched philosophy into the broader world by relentlessly posing questions about things others assumed they knew. He had the curiosity and courage to interrogate reality in new ways and to involve others in his endless quest to understand.
In this connection I want to recommend heartily Walter Isaacson’s new massive biography of Elon Musk. Poor Elon (the only context in which you’ll ever see these two words together in reference to the world’s richest man) had a truly terrible childhood of massive emotional abuse at the hands of his own father, and of physically violent schoolyard bullies along the way. But he was a survivor, and went on to found company after company that he successfully steered through impossible challenges, largely by a relentless asking of questions: Why are things done in this way? Why is this a rule or regulation? Who made this a rule? How can we do things differently? What can we eliminate from the complexity of this product or process? How can we make things simpler, faster, cheaper, and more efficient?
Musk has overcome incredible odds over and over again, despite many self destructive emotional tendencies coming from his harsh childhood, by asking childlike questions where others take things for granted, or as givens in the world. He uses the tool of relentless questioning to turn industries upside down and make new things happen. He seems to have next to no empathy for other people, and near zero emotional intelligence, but his entire business history is driven by his remarkable capacity to ask the right questions over and over again, demanding real answers and not accepting the common prejudicial opinions that result merely from long-time habit.
This is a trait Elon Musk shares with the late Steve Jobs. Both of them have managed to launch world-changing enterprises by asking questions about things everyone else just assumed. Why do we need this? Can we do without it? Why don’t we try this another way? Can we take a risk here? Who says it’s impossible? What’s the worst that can happen if we give this a try?
Questions are powerful tools, and this particular type of tool is vastly underused because it’s under appreciated in our time. The great discoverers and inventors have always wondered what there could be beyond the known. And they have acted on their wonder, bringing the tool of asking to their awe and both then to action in the world.
Young people wanting the success of a Musk at Tesla or Space-X, or the world changing impact of a Jobs with his i-world wrongly ape their dress or darker manners, thinking that minimalist cool or hot anger and rage can give them the achievements they seek in their own lives. But if they were to really ask what has made Jobs and Musk able to pioneer new things, they would quickly discover that it’s the power of asking questions well and relentlessly, and thereby stripping away illusion and false necessity that is the art standing behind their accomplishments, as well as nearly any remarkable success. And it’s a tool each of us can use. If that goads you to ask how, then you’re already well on your way.
For the Musk book, click HERE. And if you’re curious, which is good, I have a book where I explore all the philosophical tools Steve Jobs used to attain his extraordinary success. It’s called Socrates in Silicon Valley and is HERE.
Good morning, friends! I just did my morning post across social media and wanted to share it here because it’s an insight that’s become very important to me. I just had a new and unexpected project come my way. At first it was a major surprise and challenge over whether to say yes, then I realized it was a wonderful opportunity, and it very quickly turned into a tremendous challenge that slowly revealed itself to be one of the most amazing adventures ever. I’ll say more about that later. But here is my post today for you to ponder. I’d love to hear what you think.
There are days when this is how it seems. A vertical ascent, the hardest of environments and difficulties. But ponder this guy’s likely mindset. Focus. Determination. A strong sense of purpose and a goal. An exhilaration at the very difficulty. An easy climb can’t bring the deep satisfaction of the all out commitment and complete engagement required by the extreme challenge. So, climb on. One finger hold and foot hold at a time. Inch by inch of progress. Alert. Aware. Relishing the process as the deep adventure into yourself that it always is. The summit awaits and is as patient as you and I are learning to be. #difficulty #hard #adversity #focus #determination #grit #success #wisdom #mindset
A good friend just asked me last night by voice mail: What’s the difference between consciousness, awareness, and mindfulness? By the time I heard the message, it was late and I was on the verge of losing my grip on each of those things. So I’ve waited until this morning. You all want to take a crack at this one? My first thoughts are that consciousness is the base level of what we all experience except when we’re sitting through a long and boring lecture in a warm room. It separates people and animals from plants, maybe, or all three from stones, maybe. Or. It’s an awake visual surround sound sensorium of perceptions, memories, and thoughts, whenever they’re present, and lively, or “brought to mind.” We all know what the opposite is like, to be unconscious, except of course while it’s going on, which is odd in its own right, right? And then there’s the subconscious that takes over and drives your car in way that Tesla software can't when your conscious mind decides to take a break and wander in warm trustingness that this other part of you can make do just fine, most of the time, unlike Tesla's CEO.
Awareness is just another name for what distinguishes consciousness from the totally oblivious unconscious, or what strangely attaches both conscious and subconscious states to a greater reality beyond the individual mind. It can take such forms as the immediacy of sharp visual seeing or keen concurrent hearing, or else the indirectness of merely realizing.
Mindfulness is by contrast a particular focus of the conscious, aware mind. It’s about paying attention and keenly noticing in an undivided and nondistracted way. It’s a purity of being there, or here, and now. It’s a spiritual attainment, whereas consciousness and awareness at least begin as among our most basic, given equipment, our starting points for active participation in the world. I may be wrong, but I’m not yet conscious, or aware, of how, and yet I’m mindfully open. You?
One more this week for those of you who aren’t with me on social media. I’ll not usually do back to back posts here but today, I decided to do so!
Decisions. How many decisions do you make in a given day, week, month, or year? Sometimes they can seem as numerous as a big sky full of migrating birds, and much less likely to make their intended destinations. It can feel overwhelming at times. We walk through a fog of the unknown and radically unpredictable. And yet, we want to get each decision right. But in an uncertain and dynamic world, we should know that’s impossible. No mere human has done it yet. None of us will likely be the first. And so that provides a different perspective on the challenge. Maybe the practical point of decisions isn’t to get them all right, but merely to be fully responsible in them all. We do our best, and this is all that’s asked. The world then takes over and we await the results, which most likely will present more decisions. It’s less like a test a school room exam, but parts of a journey, an adventure forward, where we’re exploring and perhaps building, but it’s all a bit tentative. Our learning and growth is foremost. Our curiosity, creativity, and courage are to be developed and deployed into the world. But perfection isn’t even on the horizon. And to worry about it is wasted energy. We’re here to fly. And the sky is indeed big, with lots of great stops along the way. #growth #building #creativity #learning #courage #decisions #choices #wisdom #life #leadership
Comment: Many people find themselves frozen by decisions, as if so much turns on each one. Once we frame them differently, we free ourselves from most of that pressure. Sure, there are some decisions we have to do our best to get right, but if we’re resilient and creative, if we’re alchemists or what I can lemonade makers, we can adapt and adjust when we see what the world has done with our input. As long as we seek to mitigate risk so that no decision is so bad as to take us out of the game of life altogether, we have the chance to rebound and redirect, change and do that thing everyone mentions these days, pivot. It’s Ok to be even a little bird brained now and then, as long as we’re agile enough to recover and relaunch. And, yeah, we have words like pivot and agile because they name things we need to be able to master. So I try not to be tired of them or irked with their repetitive ubiquity. At least they give us a chance to use phrases like ‘repetitive ubiquity.’
It’s ultimately up to us how we experience this moment. We bring a sensibility to every situation, a predilection, a perspective or disposition. And we forget that fact all too often, giving the circumstance much more power than it inherently has. Part of a happy and fulfilled life is taking that power back and using it properly, for the good of others as well as ourselves. This little trick can even allow the welcome visitor of joy to come our way.
This is what the great practical philosophers and their wisdom traditions seek to remind us. It’s an inner game. It’s a soul journey. We’ve been given much more power than we use, resources we ignore or forget. When we reclaim our inheritance and use it in healthy ways, we flourish together and as individuals. May you flourish more today than yesterday, and tomorrow even more.
The Real Truth about Comfort Zones. The number one piece of business, personal growth, and high achievement advice in our day gets shouted out from stages, repeated in podcasts, and endlessly printed in the pages of best selling books: “You gotta get out of your comfort zone!” “All the good stuff is to be found outside of your comfort zone!” And: “You want one piece of advice from me today that will change your life? Get out of your comfort zone!” But as I realized long ago and have mentioned in a short reflection before, the last few times I heard someone repeat this advice as if it were scintillatingly new and powerful and desperately needed, they were voicing it from the middle of a stage, in front of a big audience, under spotlights, where they are to be found dozens, scores, or even hundreds of times a year, or, in other words, from right smack dab in the middle of their own comfort zones. Yeah. Ponder that for a second. Now this is a conundrum, and that always attracts a philosopher’s attention.
If you’re stuck in a rut, hiding from anything new, wallowing like a little pig in warm mud deeply ensconced in a dulling comfort, or you’re robotically frozen in a rigid routine that prevents you from experiencing or discovering anything new, then yes indeed, maybe you need to get out of your comfort zone. Right now. But there’s a deeper truth and a much more powerful one that nobody ever mentions. You ultimately need to learn to develop a different sort of comfort zone, one of mastery not mediocrity, and take that comfort zone with you wherever you go. Get out of that? No. Get into it if you aren’t already. Then: Take it with you into any new situation.
It just occurred to me yesterday that all the championship athletes I’ve ever known play best in their comfort zone, one they’ve built up and cultivated and constructed into an inner cathedral of strength that they can take with them into any new stadium, field, arena, or contest where they’ll be mightily challenged to prevail. All the great musicians I’ve ever seen also tend to play right in the middle of their own well earned comfort zones, where there’s a groove and a deep feeling of flow. Masters of any art or craft, intellectual discipline or difficult enterprise most often live and work inside an amazing comfort zone that the rest of us can only admire with great respect. They make it look easy, no matter how incredibly hard it might be.
The real truth is that there are two very different kinds of comfort zones. There is of course the one that the motivational speakers and high paid business advisors are urging you to leave behind. And that’s what we can call “The Complacent Comfort Zone.” But then there is another kind that we might call “The Courageous Comfort Zone.” It’s a commanding place of strength and skill. It’s about attitudes and emotions, talent and skill, and seemingly effortless lightning quick thought. That’s what’s worth creating and sustaining and taking with you wherever you go. That’s where greatness happens. It’s the garden of delights for the excellence of peak attainment. It’s the highest playground of mastery.
And that’s where I’ll see you soon. Ok? Bring your own.
The Myth of the Lone Individual. In western civilization, if we can now even call ourselves civilized, we have a distorted view of human beings along many dimensions, one of which is often referred to as our philosophy of individualism. This viewpoint atomizes human beings as each an island, an isolated self, a sole former of beliefs, feeler of emotions, holder of attitudes, and initiator of actions. On such a view, the metaphysically isolated individual alone is responsible for his or her path in the world. If you succeed or fail, it’s all on you. If you’re loving or cruel, the same is true. Individual responsibility is an implication of individual isolation.
But there is an ancient Chinese and more broadly Asian counterpoint to this view, a philosophy in which we are all essentially entwined parts of a greater whole, believing, feeling, seeing, and acting in community within an all embracing system that surrounds and permeates us, in what can be imagined as concentric circles of influence and cooperation, indeed of collaboration. Some of the deeper classical Christian thought has its own version of such a conception. On this view, life is a vast partnership of all with all, either for good or ill. Community matters. Surrounding systems and structures are powerfully involved in our lives. Things like heroism or racism, to cite two polarities, are never just the responsibility of the sole individual so characterized, but are effects of collective forces.
This does not rob us of individual responsibility, but rather shows the full stage on which that responsibility develops and plays out. We live best when we understand the involvement of systems and communities of agency in the situations and souls of those around us, as well as with ourselves. Primal societies even see the objects around us as having a form of agency to help or hinder. Some of our deepest political problems arise out of an extreme individualist myth that sees each of us as solely accountable for whatever we think, feel, or do. If you're poor, it's all your fault. Feeding the hungry is going out of your way to solve a problem the hungry created for themselves. A more enlightened philosophy will cast its net more broadly and understand the collaborative nature of existence and action in all its forms. We live within a huge and intimately engaged ecology of things and spirits enlivened with energy. We need to think more and do more to enhance our broader communities of being and doing. That's the only sane and safe way forward.
Note: This post was inspired by an extraordinary essay in Aeon: https://aeon.co/essays/in-classical-chinese-philosophy-all-actions-are-collective?utm_source=Aeon+Newsletter&utm_campaign=2789347d4a-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2022_11_21_05_39&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_-2789347d4a-%5BLIST_EMAIL_ID%5D
I’m what you might call a wisdom coach, a philosophical guide, a mentor for others as I also continue to absorb deeper lessons on life’s path. When I pass on what I’ve received, I always see more.
We typically best learn from digging deep and doing well in the company of those who know. One of my favorite grad school professors at Yale long ago reflected that we were in danger of losing our greatest model of education, the master-apprentice relationship, where a novice accompanies an experienced expert on a journey, an adventure of imitation, repetition, individuation, and growth into a form of distinctive excellence. And we’re never too old to apprentice ourselves to a master. As the British social scientist and philosopher Michael Polanyi showed long ago in his books Personal Knowledge and Tacit Knowing, that’s how greatness is sparked and conveyed.
So I’m launching a new enterprise soon, a new official form of service as a mentor, advisor, and guide for C suite executives, company founders, and top performers in many domains who seek more wisdom and practical philosophy in their lives. I’ve done it informally and quietly for a long time, but now, while it will still be quite confidential an endeavor, I’m going to officially open up for a few more ongoing partners and companions along the way. But, shhh. It’s still a very quiet enterprise.
Oh, and about the picture: The small horse is me. The bigger one represents the great sages of our history, showing us the way, if we’ll only attend and take it all in. You may want to run with us.
Final thought for all of us each day: Who are you helping to grow? Who is helping you?
What if this world, as real as it is for what it is, is at the same time a reflection of another more solid and substantial reality? I think Plato had a suspicion of the possibility that finally became a belief.
We typically suppose our surrounding snow globe of a cosmos to be in its physicality fundamentally solid, dense, and firm, within all its open emptiness, but our odd friends, the physicists, tell us it’s mostly that emptiness, even lurking beneath the solidity, vastly empty space filled by enigmatic energy packs that are themselves barely substantial at all, beyond the sheer mathematics that may actually comprise them. What if then we merely mirror a more robust reality beneath or beyond it all?
We think of the body as solid and the spirit as, well, more like the merest gas or steam, or an insubstantial shadow. But what if it’s the other way around? We need to keep our minds and hearts open to the deeper possibilities, the stranger things, however outside our normal experience, as we take in the beautiful and terrible reflections in this world.
Plato even joked that we're just in a cave and that the bright light of reality yet awaits us outside it. I like my little cavern, but perhaps it's preparing me for something yet more and greater and beyond my ability now to grasp. Let's keep in mind the vision, as we interact with others today and tomorrow, leaving room for the greatness they may be here to mirror, even when they don't shine brightly.
Most people who read Plato's Republic as adults, or his other shorter dialogues featuring Socrates, usually get caught up in the discussions and never notice a very strange thing. The master pattern is something like this: Someone brings up a topic, and Socrates begins asking questions. He quickly finds that at least one person present seems to think he knows all about the topic, or at least has a high degree of certainty about some central idea or claim. Our philosopher begins to dismantle that certainty. And the dialogue tends to end with no more accurate truth to replace the counterfeit insight that was originally so confidently presented as the truth. Then Socrates ambles off.
Careful readers eventually say, "Wait. Why no resolution? Why does Socrates leave things unresolved? Is he trying to show us that philosophy unsettles us but never gives us answers?" No. Not at all.
On reflection, it looks to me like what most motivated Socrates was not actually clarifying common concepts or evaluating popular claims to arrive at ultimate truth, but rather inducing a measure of intellectual humility into others as a way of sparking a courageous curiosity about life. Then, great things could happen. We're too tied to the status quo, too pressured by peers, too often caught in group think, too chained to the assumptions of our day, or industry, or profession, or party. We need to be bold thinkers, all of us, unafraid to try ideas, to test assumptions, and to think in new and creative ways. That's when we can make our greatest contributions.
Ok, one last blog post this week. Then I’ll shut up for a while. But I had to share something.
Are there any new philosophical questions? Here's one new for you to ponder this weekend. The most ancient human epic story in our possession is the epic of Gigamesh, which, while called an epic, and it is, is actually a relatively short story. Clay tablets could be only so big. It's about a king who is a bad leader and a pretty terrible person primarily because he has no sense of limits. We live in a world where we seek to deal with limits by fight or flight. We smash them or run from them. We have bumper stickers that say "No Limits!" But what if we need them? When Gilgamesh discovers his, he is transformed. Have you discovered yours? Have we as a culture? Have our leaders? Have fun with this short article sent to me by a friend, a retired CBS Radio News anchor: https://twitter.com/dwnews/status/1578359377077178370
Do you ever pour energy into a project, a massive waterfall of thundering effort, a veritable Niagara of activity, and find yourself astonished to realize that only a small stream meandering through the undergrowth seems to result? We all have that experience at some point, if we ever try anything big, challenging, and exciting.
We’ve aimed really high, prepared extremely well, worked endlessly hard, and in the aftermath, only a trickle of result seems to ensue. We’re exhausted and bewildered, and perhaps despondent.
The world can sometimes seem set up not to aid or magnify our efforts for good, but to resist them mightily and filter them down to nearly nothing. It can feel like a force field surrounds us and blunts any attempt we might muster for the new great thing. But then, who said anything worth doing would be easy? Why think progress will ever be automatic, that results are guaranteed, or that any of us can work magic through sheer will?
Maybe the world is set up with quite different ends in mind, and among these are growing us in wisdom and strength, and for that, difficulty is needed. Challenge is required. Obstacles must be plenty, and large, and sometimes scary. Perhaps the process is the point. The waterfall itself is what was wanted. And maybe, just maybe, what the world needs right now is precisely that trickle your gushing has produced, along with all the beauty and noise of its production, that small stream fed by your massive cascade of energy. And that just may set you up for what’s next, and next after that, until there is something so wonderful you could never have imagined it, not for a moment, streaming and flowing from all your tries, failures, disappointments, and hopes along the way.